American philosopher, David Spangler talks about New Year’s Day being a particularly personal holiday. I concur. It is a time when we focus on ourselves. Who we are? Where are we going? We take stock. We reflect. We want to be better; we want to do better. We focus on what would make us happier. We humans love make-overs, transformations, come-backs, and redemptions. It’s part of our make-up. We are human and built for change and salvation in all of its permutations. And New Year’s is the kick-off for all of these intentions, resolutions, and quiet prayers.
With this is mind, here are two connected pieces of advice that make terrific sense.
The first is to make this the New Year when you accept — lovingly and in totality — all of your very human, often contradictory, sometimes shameful, wonderfully soulful, and multidimensional aspects of self. In other words, take yourself seriously. Truly, this is a vital concept.
It is the time to honor you. Embrace your worthiness. Know you are of value. There is no one else on the planet like you. The whispers from your soul and calls from your heart are needed. You may not see the “thread” of what you offer and what you are, but be assured, dear ones, you are part and parcel of the whole pulsating tapestry. You are a needed cog and wheel in the gestalt of our vibrating multiverse energies. Don’t run away from you.
In one of her earlier novels, Barbara Kingsolver’s character said, “You’ve been afraid all of your life. You’ve got a good heart. Run with it.” Dear ones, run, run, run. Run forward in complete acceptance and honor of your wonderful self. If you don’t take yourself seriously, who will? Let it begin with you. You are worthy. And if you feel this way about yourself, you will treat yourself accordingly.
What is the second piece of advice? Don’t take yourself so seriously. I know, I know, I sound like I am contradicting myself, but I am of the “and and” school of thought. There is room at the table for both. What do I mean?
It is healthy to remember the benefits of flexibility. In other words, let’s not just hunker down on only one side of the see-saw. We need balance to negotiate the blind side of our egos where we might take ourselves soooo seriously that there is little generosity of the heart. After all, we are human and we learn by our foibles, gaffes, and missteps. We need to inject a little light in all of its striations into our lives. Not only is this the lightness of humor, there is also the light of compassion, understanding, and kindness.
With this model, we can honor ourselves and not be afraid to take our place at the table. And we can give ourselves (and others) a break when there is a fumble. This is a winning combination.
Happy New Year, dear ones, I can see your magnificence from here.